The Confidence Queens Academy

Developing Sustainable Self-Confidence by Fusing Personal & Professional Development, To Transform Prospects & mindsets

Master your Time

JJ, your Confidence and Mindset Coach here.

Are you ready for some insights? Well, I guess, that's why you're here right?! 

Queen

 

We’re heading into Week 4 of Master Yourself, where you’re taking action to take control and be accountable for your future. 

 

This module is about making sure you’re taking back control over those things that are within your control. While you can’t do anything about outside forces, you can most certainly control your own behavior, reactions and decisions. And that’s where Mastering Yourself comes into play.

 

To Master Yourself is to develop the tools you need to keep you on the course you’ve chosen for yourself. Which means you learn how not to bow to outside forces, bend to someone else’s will, or serve anyone else’s purpose. You truly come to grips with your ability to lead yourself, guide yourself, and show up for yourself.

 

I’m going to put this in other words. When you Master Yourself, you basically will know when to tell people to buzz right off. And buzz right off they should, if they’re holding you back. You know where you’re going, and you’re busy working on getting there. Ain’t nobody stopping this train but you!

 

Now, that means that the only person responsible for your experience of life is you, and the only one who needs to put in 2000% of the effort to get you to where you want to be is YOU.  

 

Let me ask you… How are you keeping yourself accountable and in check? How are you making sure you remain motivated and stay on course? 

 

A part of Mastering Yourself is making sure you do things you don’t necessarily want to, because you need to, and because those things ultimately fit into your wider vision for yourself. It’s so easy to let things slip though. If you’re working and not seeing results, or life kind of pops up and interrupts your work, or you get side-tracked by that shiny object other there… when that happens, you can easily lose steam and shelve your plans for yourself. You’ll tell yourself it’s just for the time being, but once you run out of steam, it’s really, really hard to get that momentum back.

 

We’re not letting that happen. This week, we’re focusing on keeping the momentum going.

 

  1. Set a reminder. If you’re a member of The Academy, you probably joined us for the VisionBoard Session. But if you’re not a member, and you have a vision board, consider updating it, give it a refresh and set it somewhere in your home well within your regular view. Or put up an image that reminds you of why you are doing, what you’re doing, you can use an affirmation or a quote or a few lines you’ve written that keep your future at the forefront of your mind. Having an actual physical reminder in front of you is infinitely more helpful than you think (even if it does feel a bit obvious… it’s obvious for a reason. Obviously!). Here’s a little tip. When you start feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or down on things not working out how you want them to, a really good way of easing those negative emotions quickly is by looking at something in the room around you, considering why it’s there, and what it means and breathing through as you remind yourself you are not at your final destination yet, it’s just part of the journey. This is called grounding (there are many other different ways to ground yourself but I’ll only cover this one, because of its benefits to this particular theme), and it’s the process of pulling your focus away from your thoughts and on the present, physical world. Whatever it is you put up, will be the thing that helps you to stay grounded. Not only will the exercise ground you, it will also remind you of the bigger picture instead of keeping you thinking about the much smaller albeit more pressing here-and-now problems which is great for calming anxiety.

  2. Be a planner. Failing to plan is planning to fail! Discipline is nothing if you don’t have a plan you’re working on accomplishing. I mean you can wake up at 5am, but if you don’t know what you’re doing once you’re up, you might as well go back to sleep. So, make sure you’ve got a working plan that you’re checking regularly, and updating equally as regularly. Manage your time, set tasks for yourself, and keep assessing your progress against your planner. I recommend you set a timer for your working sessions and stick to working until the timer goes off. I do this when I have a lot of work on in order to boost my productivity. I set a timer for 55 minutes, then I stretch, get a drink, walk away from my laptop for 5 minutes (or so), and then get back to work. It’s the most productive thing to do, I recommend you to try it and remember to come back and comment below to let me know how it worked for you. For those who have significant others or dependants, let them know that you’ll be available once the beeper sounds. That way, you’ll have actual, measurable time that’s allocated to you,and those around you will know when they can expect you back.

  3. Get positive. You might get the urge to procrastinate, push things off, or just sink into a panic. When that happens, catch yourself as early as possible and rectify the course. Even if that’s the only thing you do during your allocated work time, give yourself space to boost yourself back into a positive mindset. Address the urge to procrastinate, and resolve the issues that are causing it. If you’re pushing off tasks you need to do, even though you’ve allocated time to do them, then something’s off. Assess what that is, and fix it. Ask yourself, ‘What feeling are you trying to avoid?’.. ‘What are you afraid will happen when you finish this task?’. If you’re in a procrastination loop, it’s your signal that you’re unconsciously faced with a fear or you’re stuck in a habit of doubt. Take a minute for self-coaching. This positivity work will always be a part of your journey, and should absolutely be treated with the same value as any other work you’re doing to make your visions a reality. 

 

All right Queen, it’s over to you to do what you gotta do.

 

You got this, all you need to do is put in the work, and show up for yourself. If you’re struggling with staying on track, let me or the CQA community know. We’re here to support you in your journey, and we’re just a message away!

 

If you’re at a place of overwhelm or stuckness, especially if you’re trying to master yourself in the middle of a transition period, it might be time to book in a call with me and let’s smash the limiting beliefs and fears that are holding you back so you can courageously step in and master yourself, with confidence!  

 

And as always… 

 

Fix your crown.

 

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