Queen, we know fear is uncomfortable. Fear can be a massive blocker to action. It can absolutely paralyse or propel us in the wrong direction, by causing us to run away without any thought to the direction we’re running in. Can you relate? We can make decisions that are ultimately wrong for us, and which are driven by our fears. It can cause us to waste time, it can frustrate us, and it can even make us resign ourselves to failure before we even try. Simply put, we sabotage ourselves by how we hold our fear, or how we handle ourselves when we feel fear.
Let me give you an example. You want a pay rise, but you’re afraid to tell your boss. Your inner voice tells you that if you do ask for more money, you’ll be let go. You’re replaceable, after all. You mess up too much, and you don’t know what to do about it. You don’t have a voice at work, and on those rare occasions that you try to speak up during a meeting, there’s someone that’s always speaking over you, interrupting you, just stealing away any thunder you might have had (If you want some practical tips on dealing with people interrupting you, check out this Instagram post I did on the topic). So, you just don’t ask for a rise. The decision not to act, i.e. not to ask for the pay rise, is driven by fear.
The result – no pay rise and lots of guilt for not even trying which increases the negative self-talk…. And the cycle continues.
Queen, I am here to tell you that your story does not need to end like that. You can choose to hold your fear from a position of Power instead of Pain. The decision is COMPLETELY👏🏾 UP👏🏾 TO👏🏾 YOU!👏🏾
Yes, Queen, you can control your fear, and not only that, but you can turn your fear, into fuel. How? Here’s the truth bomb that I shared in the disrupt fear training, the deepest level of fear is the fear that we cannot ‘handle’ the outcome. When we take the steps outlined in the training, you will transition to a place where you can hold fear from a position of power. And that, my dear Queen, is when everything changes!
If you’re in The Academy, we have a module on Fear which you can delve right into here.
Queen, Academy member or not, check out my Facebook Monday Motivation post on passion and fear for some inspiration and truths.
It’s never too late to make this, the year you choose yourselves. The year you carry through on your commitments and the year you face your fears, and take back control!
I love hearing from you, so hit reply and let me know, the biggest fear that you will decide to face this year?
And remember Queen, I am here for you.
Those of you in The Academy, I look forward to coaching you at the Coaching Clinic tomorrow, and until then, fix Your Crown!