Queen
The mindset of Celebrating Yourself is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself. It’s one of those things where if you weren’t raised in a household that normalises self-celebration, you won’t truly come to terms with the power of it until you’ve actually done it for yourself.
It’s a courageous step to be able to Celebrate Yourself and acknowledge your amazingness from a place of self-acceptance and confidence, without waiting for someone to do it for you. It is recognising that you are enough, even with your flaws. That you matter, even when society tells you otherwise. Celebrating Yourself is a big way to ‘kick society norms’ in the butt!
We’re told, especially as women, to ‘be humble’, don’t brag. To become invisible until someone notices you. Stay irrelevant until someone else validates you.
Queen, I want you to know, whether other people notice or not, YOU, my dear, are worth celebrating. YOU dear Queen, can validate yourself! If you’ve been following my writing, then you know by now that you matter and it’s important that you treat yourself that way.
I remember speaking to one of my clients from my Feel The Fear Signature Coaching Programme a few weeks ago. She desperately wanted to break free from people-pleasing. She was afraid of letting people down, afraid of disappointing people and afraid of setting boundaries or saying no. And I asked her two questions, ‘Are you somebody too? Do you think you deserve to be one of the people you please?’ The questions stopped her in her tracks as, for the first time, she began to put herself in the equation as a person who mattered. It wasn’t long after that before she resigned from a job she hated and decided to be self-employed and put her gifts and talents to work. It’s like she saw herself for the first time and realised she was worth celebrating.
Celebrating Yourself is about reclaiming the power to stand in your achievements, your successes, your story, and your journey. It IS a power, and one that you should reclaim wholeheartedly. It’s about letting go of the need for someone else to see you for who you are, and instead seeing yourself for who you are…and knowing that you are enough.
In this final week, I want you to activate your empathy, your vulnerability and your compassion, and the next conversation you have, really listen closely to what the person is saying. Look past what you hear and connect with the emotion. Listen closely and ask them about their story, and dig into who they are as a person. See them, I mean, really see them and identify something beautiful about their character and bring it to their awareness. Let them know that you see them and they are worth celebrating. Share with them the concept of Celebrating Yourself that you’ve learned about these past few weeks and help them to enjoy the amazingness it brings.
Why? Well, first of all because there’s nothing like spreading joy and happiness in the world. Like you, there will be so many others just waiting to be celebrated, to be recognised. It will, without a doubt, give them the boost that they’ve been waiting for. If that’s not reason enough though, think about it this way. By giving that person permission to acknowledge their achievements and Celebrate them, you can see for yourself the real-time transformation that people go through when it clicks that their “small thing” is actually something to take pride in. The smile that lights up their face, the spring they get in their step, the inspiration to do more, you’ll see all that for yourself. There’s nothing like watching the power of Celebrating Yourself work, and while you can’t necessarily watch yourself go through it, you can most certainly see how it impacts others. I guarantee you that person will start taking leaps and bounds that will surprise them. And with enough self-celebration, they’ll impress you both. Oh, and as an added bonus, you’ll be able to connect on a much deeper level with someone else. It’s a win-win-win!
All right Queen, get to Celebrating. Develop that life-long habit, and reap the rewards of truly, wholeheartedly embracing the new, loving, caring, confident, purpose-driven you.
And, as always….
Fix your crown.
